Why we struggle and why it’s important

Gather ’round, it’s story time!   Sometimes, its hard to remember that things happen for a reason.  There is a plan, and the things we go through prepare us for the things ahead.  I read this story about a year ago and I like to re-read it when I’m feeling overwhelmed by life.  Hopefully it brings you some comfort as well.

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly, that he brought home.

One day a small opening appeared he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours. It struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, but, it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. He continued to watch the butterfly, he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and the body would contract. Neither happened!

In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly.

The man acted with well-intentioned kindness but he didn’t understand the consequences. The restricting cocoon and the struggle required to get through the tiny opening, were nature’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life.  If God allowed us to go through all our life without any obstacles, that would cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been.

(Photo by: by kevincole)

and once again the above story…..  not written by me.   Written by someone Unknown.  That guy writes the best stuff.

Who are You? Who will You be?

Hello, I’m Amanda.

I’m the person behind the words you read on Not Enough Coffee.  This is where all the blogging advice blogs say I should tell you about how great I am and how im super qualified to tell you what to think.   Well…..  fuck that.

Im 28, I sleep too much, and drink too much coffee.

I have a mountain of student loan debt from a wasted education that is unfinished and unusable, I watch too many movies, I have an unhealthy love of Star Wars, I sometimes drink too much vodka, and I work in a soul sucking and spine crushingly boring job that I hate, in an industry based on greed and ignorance.

Everyday I see and interact with people who are selfish and completely unaware of themselves or others around them.  They are rude and lazy and they make me lose all faith in humanity. They are the consumer frenzy.

I don’t want to despise people, and I don’t want to think its all hopeless.  In less than 2 years I’ll be 30 and to steal from Lethal Weapon, “I’m getting too old for this shit.”  (more…)

The Myth of Prince Charming

We are all used to the fairy tale wrap up at the end of Disney animated features.  Prince and princess kiss, and live happily ever after.

Do they really though?  How can this fairy tale magic work if the princess has only just met her liberator?

Disney has made a lot of money marketing their princesses, but their princes are boring, dull, and lifeless. The prince characters exist only to rescue the princess and become a last minute solution to poverty, abandonment, and loneliness.

The princess hardly knows a prince before she is carried away to his castle to spend the rest of her life with him.  What has she got herself into?  Some of the Disney princes don’t even have proper names and are only an archetype of a strong male savior, swooping in to save the day and validate the princess’s struggle.  Let’s look at the worst offenders: (more…)